else.
Systems exist for situations where emotions distort reality.
Legal systems.
Military systems.
Financial systems.
When functioning correctly, they care about documentation, accuracy, timelines, and proof.
They don’t care that someone says, “But we’re family.”
They don’t care that someone calls you selfish because you refuse to pay for their choices.
That can feel cold.
But structure is useful when guilt and obligation are being weaponized against you.
My family’s entire argument depended on emotion.
“Be a good sister.”
“We’re family.”
“You owe us.”
None of those statements changed who
