it.
Eventually, they may demand it.
And when you finally say no, your refusal feels like the disruption.
But setting a boundary isn’t creating the problem.
Sometimes it is finally interrupting a pattern that should have stopped years earlier.
Boundaries don’t automatically drive healthy people away.
They reveal which relationships only worked because you had none.
That truth can hurt.
But it can also be freeing.
Once I understood it, I stopped negotiating my value.
Stopped explaining why basic respect should matter.
Stopped proving myself to people who benefited from
